Frequently Asked Questions
Where are you located? Do you travel?
I live in Lalor, in the northern suburbs of Melbourne, so that's the area where most of my clients come from, but I also service the greater Melbourne area and surrounds. I do charge a small travel fee for any travel over 150km from my home; I will let you know of this when you notify me of your venue plans.
What do I need to do to hire you as my celebrant?
- Be legally allowed to marry in Australia (obviously this only applies if I'm marrying you!)
When should I book you?
For weddings, I would advise booking 6-18 months in advance of your wedding date. This gives me ample time to write the ceremony, but also makes sure I have your NOIM within the legal timeframe.
What will you wear on the day?
I ask in my initial interviews with clients if they have a colour scheme for their ceremony, and I generally work off of that colour palette. I also ask what the dress code is so I don't under- or over-dress - you don't want me turning up in a ballgown when the guests are all wearing jeans, for example!
I have another question you haven't answered! Help!
Oh no! Please feel free to visit my Contact page to let me know of this shortcoming - and also to ask your question!
Are you available on my date?
Probably! Get in contact and you can find out for sure.
Do you do LGBTQI+ weddings?
Definitely! As a member of the LGBTQI+ community myself, and a long-term campaigner for equal marriage rights, I was absolutely delighted when Australian marriage laws changed for the better. I try to include inclusive language in all my documentation, and am always happy for feedback on this matter.
What are the legal requirements for marriage in Australia?
To be married in Australia, you and your partner need to fit some fairly simple criteria. You must be:
Do we have to have a wedding rehearsal?
It's entirely up to you whether you have one or not, but I would suggest doing so. That way we can all learn our places for the ceremony, we can work out any little bumps that may occur on the day (for my own wedding, for example, we hadn't realised the venue was unable to play the CD we had for our music, so we had to scramble to get the songs in a suitable format), and we can have a relaxed conversation about it all. This would generally be my first and only time meeting your wedding party, and gives them a chance to make sure their best friends are being married by someone they approve of!
What are the legal vows? What is a Monitum?
The only parts of any wedding ceremony that cannot be changed are the Monitum and the minimum legal vows. The Monitum is something I legally must say to you at some point before your vows:
"I am duly authorised by law to solemnise marriages according to law. Before you are joined in marriage in my presence and in the presence of these witnesses, I am to remind you of the solemn and binding nature of the relationship into which you are now about to enter. Marriage, according to law in Australia, is the union of two people to the exclusion of all others, voluntarily entered into for life."
As well as the Monitum, the minimum words that must be said during your vows is asking your guests to witness that you are taking your partner as your legal spouse, using words to this effect:
"I call upon the persons here present to witness that I, [FULL NAME], take thee, [FULL NAME], to be my lawful wedded [wife/husband/spouse]”
There are very strict rules as to what may or may not be changed in the Monitum or minimum vows. I am happy to talk about these with you, although I do recommend keeping everything as written.
Do I have to be an Australian citizen to marry in Australia?
You do not. I would be honoured to marry any visitors in my beautiful country.
Can I write my own vows?
Please do! I might be the one standing up and saying most of the pretty words, but what your guests AND your partner want most is to hear how you feel about each other in your own special way. The only requirement is that the aforementioned legal vows are part of it.